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Acceptance is the New Super Power

Acceptance is the New Super Power

Acceptance really is a super power. Most of the time living with a chronic illness is hard. It is a journey into the dark unknown. A journey we did not want or plan for.

One of the hardest tasks in adapting to life changing illness is to get one’s head round the term ‘acceptance’. Accepting that the illness is now an enduring part of life.

Most people struggle with acceptance. The reason why this struggle exists is very simple. Acceptance is frequently mistaken for ‘submission or with giving up’. The schema most of us hold is that giving up is ‘throwing in the towel’. Culture itself increases the struggle. There is a false belief that to live fully we must be always pushing forward. Pushing forward usually means achieving and amassing. Even if that pushing forward becomes harmful in some cases. Acceptance of an illness and of the impact it has on one’s life is not giving up or submitting. In this case, acceptance is simply an acknowledgement that the disease or illness is there and, like it or not, it has an impact.

How Acceptance Can Change Your Outlook

The wonderful thing about acceptance is that when you reach it, a layer of suffering vanishes from the daily struggle. When one acknowledges the fact that an illness is present, instead of fighting against it – stress is lessened and some joy and autonomy returns. Now that is moving forward and it can be a catalyst for growth.

This acknowledgement allows strategies to be developed to reduce the impact of the illness on both yourself and those close to you. Realistically, as well as lessening stress one is gently but firmly taking control of one’s life, rather that coping with the extra pressure of fighting it.

Put simply, acceptance brings both freedom and peace. This is not a gloss over. Chronic illness is very hard – often it is brutal. Acceptance paves the way to a different life, fully lived within the current reality (if you’re wondering what a full life can mean in this sense, Psychology Today has some useful insight on living well with chronic illness).

Non-acceptance means a continued struggle with little chance of adjustment and a greater level of pain, physical and emotional.

Acceptance transcends hope or fear – it is simply seeing reality as it is.

 Christine Tizard Psychology 2017

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